Talking helps. Sharing honest wants helps. I am back “in black (and white!)” Bellowing how much I want to love and cherish a great woman and potential future family from the mountain tops IS my common go-to. Facts are facts and fessing up to what actually leaves me timid, scared and queasy SHOULD be enough. Being transparent to a T minimizes the haunting effects guilt can play. I am more man than I give myself credit for.